Ignoring the signs of stress only make things worse for you. The problem is that even when one partner talks to the other about being stressed, the other partner really doesn’t know how to help. According to Judy Ford, a licensed clinical social worker (she also wrote Every Day Love), ‘stress impacts our relationships more than we are aware of or acknowledge’. This has proven to be true time and time again but stress has become such a normal part of daily life that we forget what the symptoms are and how it really impacts us and the people who support us.
Stress can also be something that can transfer from person to person. In other words, it most definitely is contagious. Tension can often back and forth between partners and show up in different ways including our actions and behaviors. Stressed couples fight more often, withdraw from each other, get angry over things they normally wouldn’t and feel sad quite often. Without dealing with stress it becomes bigger problems.
When stress is left untreated what often happens is that people start to develop severe anxiety and panic. This is often because you are dealing with so much stuff internally that you can start to feel like you don’t know how to deal with the normal little hiccups in life.
On the flip side (and as I mentioned before) couples start to experience a feel of depression and instead of starting their day off right, be happy with one another and ready to conquer the world, the common concern is ‘ why do I always wake up feeling depressed ‘.
- Dont shy away from the problem; recognize stress symptoms.
- Talk about it; Approach your partner and find out what’s going on. More often than not they really do want to talk about what is going on inside their head.
- Listen; this is so important. If your partner comes to you, listen to them very carefully and figure out what the underlying issues are.
- Get those endorphins going; Get active together. It helps!
- Talk during the day; Keep posted on your partner’s days.
- Consider self-help programs to reduce anxiety and panic (if the stress is that bad). For example, Maria Forstall (a former anxiety and depression sufferer) wrote a review of Linden Method, she also mentions a program called Panic Away.
Unchecked stress can sabotage a relationship and lead to dissatisfaction, resentfulness and even a loss of connection. The Linden Method is a program that I’ve heard about in the past that